Tuesday, April 24, 2007

The "F" word

So this past weekend, I'm out and about at a fab event where I am crushed hard by a fab boy who, as it turned out, was at the event with his wife and young daughter. It brought to mind a fab post by the fab Webmiztris Dawn where she wrote about being hit on by a married bloke now that she is a married lady. All of which got me thinking...

Is it ever okay for married folk to flirt?

As a single girl, I flirt. Often. I flirt with men I know to be married. I flirt with girls. It’s harmless fun and a way to connect socially. I don’t, however, take flirting with the married past innocent fun, or give a girl the wrong impression that I’m interested. A truly momentous plus to being single is the freedom to flirt. That, and you always get the dry towel.

Whether single, married or involved, there’s nothing out of sorts in appreciating or being attracted to another person. It’s what you do with the attraction that matters. That’s human nature, hormones, chemicals and DNA. The problem erupts when lines are crossed.

I typically am hit on more by married men than single ones and, although it may elicit either a chuckle or a “What an asshole” response, I enjoy it. But I wonder how a spouse feels about a flirty spouse. Do the spouses tell?

Is it ever okay for married folk to flirt?

9 comments:

Lucyp said...

Flirting is good fun as long as it is done obviously in jest. If the wife of person being flirted to takes it serious you may end up batting your eyelids at a doctor as he treats your black eye!!

Paula said...

I think it's perfectly okay and do it all the time (mostly online though, not in person). Hubby knows.

Jodie K said...

LucyP...oh, absolutely. I never cross over into "Desperate Housewives" territory.

Jodie K said...

...batting your eyelids

That makes me chuckle. Puts images in me head of cartoon-ey girls and the “blink-blink” noise ;)

The more I define my "flirting", perhaps it's really more just being complimentary to others, making them feel good. Undoubtedly a tick and habit picked up from many years working in marketing and PR.

O' Tim said...

Damn you chicks are making me hot ;)

Flirting is fine but being a tease is shitty. It amuses me when teasy women get all bothered by a married guy drawing the line.

Jodie K said...

Tiimmmmyyy! Just wait for my post about pillow fights and shorty nighties ;)

Webmiztris said...

hell yes, I flirt. it doesn't go any further than that, so 'who cares' is my philosophy....

Aries327 said...

I say no. When I wasn't married I always found it disconcerting when married guys flirted with me (flattered, but when they're desperate does it even mean anything?). What I thought was, they must not be happy with their situation or their wives. So I don't see how that would be any different, were I to flirt with guys, or were my husband to flirt with other girls.

But then, I'm an Aries and my husband's a Scorpio (jealous). I demand all of him or else I don't want any of him. And by all of him I mean his heart. Obviously he needs to have a job and outside contacts and friends. I'm not crazy here, just loyal. I'm loyal to him, you know. I deserve that back.

Aries327 said...

P.S. I totally tell my husband. Just so he knows other guys dig me. Bwah ha ha ha ha.

On the other hand, I have a coronary when I hear that other girls even speak to him. Ha. But then, why the h wouldn't they want him? He's adorable. And I know he adores me to pieces, so I can relax. After all, I do relax.

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