Monday, June 11, 2007

A message from the SG to the OC

When you’re single, whether by lack of marriage, current relationship or children, the time can go by a bit slowly. Often, the single girl (heretofore referred to as the “SG”) is the event planner, the coordinator. The one hoping for an invitation, a ride-along.

For those of you with a built-in, ready made “plus one” or family posse (heretofore referred to as the “otherwise committed”, or “OC”), don’t overlook the SGs in your life. Although the perception may be that we’re always “busy”, out on the town, sleeping or teetering around town in heels and short skirts and having the wild time you imagine we’re having that you secretly want a taste of, it’s usually not the case. As much as I wish my time as an SG was more “That Girl” and Carrie Bradshaw, a good deal of down time is spent alone at the movies, watching Lifetime TV (thanks, Dawn ;) or otherwise engaged in activities to keep the mind from the fact that the phone ain’t ringing. It’s more so a weekend phenomenon, “family time”. Thing is, what you may find boring (the requisite soccer game, school pageant, visit to a family theme park) an SG may find a pleasant diversion and bit of fun.

For the married OC, let me reassure you; most of us do not want to sleep with you or your significant other. We're not a threat. We’re not friendly with you as a couple to bed one (perhaps both) of the members of your union

Last, hook a sister up. Of SG hookups, those recommended by 4-out-of-5 friends usually are not bad fits. You know your SG. We trust that you won’t set us up with a loser; we can do that all by ourselves. And no, should it not “work out” it will not change our relationship or friendship. Trust that an SG can handle emotional commitments, even though he or she may currently be lacking a love connection.

13 comments:

Joe the Troll said...

I'm an SM. Wanna meet at the border???? ;-)

Jodie K said...

I do have a warm spot in my heart for you, Joe. After all, who else but us chose "Psychological :: Mumbo Jumbo" over at Miss UV's Sunday poll ;)

Curious about your experiences as a SM. Do you get shut out by men in couple because they think you want to boink their girls?

Webmiztris said...

turn off the Lifetime TV! It will only make you bitter and more miserable! LOL I suggest renting some good comedies. It sure beats watching The Lacey Peterson Story... ;)

Jodie K said...

Oh the romance, Danielle Steele crap, so not my thing. But I do loves the lineup of true crime mini-series. They’ve even shown Helter Skelter on Lifetime! The absolute best is Murder in the Heartland, the ballad of Charles Starkweather starring Tim Roth and Fairuza Balk, both of who I’d do ;)

Joe the Troll said...

"Do you get shut out by men in couple because they think you want to boink their girls? "


That has been known to happen, yes. And I only wanted to boink their girls on a COUPLE occasions.... :-)

Joe the Troll said...

I just looked.... we also matched on "Acoustic:guitar" and "Coward:-ly lion."


Take THAT, eHarmony!! :-)

Jeff said...

Male married OCs love having our male SMs around. It's that whole vicarious living thing.

Jodie K said...

Kos, which is exactly why some girls make some of the worst, jealous girl - friends.

O' Tim said...

Spouse and I have one SG who is a jewel (I agree that is rare). My best SM is in fact becoming OC this weekend, but I anticipate most of our contact will still be in the "guys night out" realm.

Candice said...

Being OC, I am guilty of assuming the SG is "Livin' it up."

Jodie K said...

Welcome to my blog, Candice ;) Everyone, say hello to my niece Candice...and be nice!

Aries327 said...

If I lived in Denver, we could totally hang out. Half the time I spend my weekends and nights alone because Stoker is working. I have no SG's here, they're all back home. If we were in the same city (back home), at least I'd have someone to hang out with. I would love to have a friend to go to indie shows with. But it seems to me, single people don't want to hang out with married people. That's the vibe I get.

The worst is moving to a new area and being married. Because how the hell do you make new friends when you're married? It's tougher than when I was single. Anyway, I have to say that my single friends hate it when I try to set them up. And I'm always doing that.

Jodie K said...

I see your point about moving someplace fresh and making new friends period. Where do you meet people as a grown up? Work? All that does (often) is take office gossip from desk to drinks. Single or married, the friends we make and maintain as adults are so different than our youth.

This is exactly why I miss my gay boys ;)

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