Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving

Meyers Briggs tells me mine is an ENFP personality and, surprising to some, extroverts aren’t (by this definition) the most social of all butterflies at a cocktail party. Rather extroverts derive energy from and recharge in the presence of others. I'm not full, not even close it feels.

ENFPs have a strong need to be liked. Some have real difficulty being alone, especially on a regular basis.

I feel like crap and have for some time now. I don’t care for it.

Yes, I believe in the balance of happy-and-sad, ying-and-yang, chocolate-and-peanut butter. But could I just feel better already? Inspired? Ready to straddle the planet and shout yea-haw? All I want to do is drink dirty martinis and chew on the olives while supine on the couch, wearing a tank top instead of a bra and pants that pull on, no snaps or zipper.

Because ENFPs live in the world of exciting possibilities, the details of everyday life are seen as trivial drudgery. Basically happy people, they may become unhappy when they are confined to strict schedules or mundane tasks.

Took a solid week away from the day job and spent it making plans. Plans plans plans plans plans. Kept up a strong pace of activities so the worries and lonely and feeling left out of what everyone else seemed to be doing, to be having wouldn’t catch me. And I had some marvelous times. Wandered the Denver Zoo in the morning, munched a patty melt and real chips in the afternoon at an Irish Pub. Drank beer when I wanted. Meet up with old girlfriends, Easter dinner, took myself to movies and a show. Finally signed up for the first of many graphic design classes.

And then I made more plans. So many that plans have overlapped plans. So many that if I don’t plan to make it to 5:30 spinning tonight, no other classes fit until Sunday.

ENFP's see meaning in everything and are on a continuous quest to adapt their lives and values to achieve inner peace. They're constantly aware and somewhat fearful of losing touch with themselves.

Haven’t seen the manfriend much and that gets me uncomfortably sad and angry because what started out as something casual turned into something regular, then headed into something good. Now something maybe dissolving too easily.

Always seeing the possibilities of what could be, ENFPs may become bored with what actually is. Less mature ENFPs may need to feel they are the center of attention all the time.

A deeply insightful friend (the kind that really listens when you talk) and I chewed over drinks and amazing bread we dunked often and much into olive oil and heavenly grated cheese. She told me mine is a life with the luxury to ponder, to be still and think and absorb. Both a blessing and a curse, she said, because such reflection can lead to a constant hum of dialogue in ones own head. And yes, I agreed, I'm sometimes felled by not knowing which way to go and simply fill the quiet with noise instead. Or sit down in the middle of it all, disengage and tell myself it doesn't matter anyway, hey hey hey.

ENFPs live in the world of possibilities and can become very passionate and excited about things. They love life, seeing it as a special gift, and strive to make the most out of it.

It matters. Goodness it does, so fill me up.


Don said...

I admire your brain as I admire snow-covered mountains, sculpted bikini models, a delicately spiced gumbo, a soulful blues man bending the notes to Trouble In Mind.

When I slow down, I will take that test too. Curious.

Don said...

INFP; 44 / 25 / 25 / 11. Healer. Never loses sense of wonder. Buyin' it so far.

Jodie Kash said...

INFPs do not like conflict, and go to great lengths to avoid it.


SereneBabe said...

I've always been an off the charts INF but my P/J have wavered over the years.

Where did you take the test? Or was this the real thing? I could only find tests you have to pay for to get the results. Boo.

I loved this post, by the way. What a great use of the test results.

Syd said...

I took this test at a previous job, when I was about 21. INFP.

I should take it again and find out.

It's easy to get disillusioned when it feels like things are stagnant. Need to shake things up like a snow globe.

Don said...

Yeah, I'm not really buying the INFP descriptions as I go deeper. I might have done the test wrong somehow. I mean, this is all wrong for me. And I really don't avoid conflict at all. The Long Drawn Out Decision is about other things. So ...

Jodie Kash said...

Took it the first time when I finished college, and a couple times since then with work. Corporate America loves this shit.

Google "Free Meyers Briggs test" online and I bet you find something.

Everything is on the internet.

Peau said...

i will take you for a dirty martini in approximately three months time. we'll get to know each other for real and it will be good.

if you accept, of course.

Genevieve said...

Hello Jodie,

I love this self evaluation using Meyers Briggs! And I also love your first statement about extroverts not always being the life of the party. I find that really interesting because I am an introvert according to Meyers Briggs and I do feel drained after spending too much time around people. But no one would ever call me quiet and shy at a party!

Anyway, I have a linking opportunity I would love to discuss with you through email if you get a chance. My email is


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